Navigating Uncharted Waters: The Emotional Journey of Parents When Their Adult Child Comes Out

by | Jan 2, 2024

Hey there, amazing readers of Wisdom of Tapping and Breath! It’s Rachel, your go-to source for emotional well-being and self-discovery. Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that often goes unexplored—the complex emotions that parents experience when their adult child comes out as LGBTQ+. It’s a journey filled with unexpected twists, and as parents grapple with the news, they may find themselves navigating uncharted waters of grief, shame, and the struggle to understand.

The Unexpected Grief of Identity Loss

Imagine this: you’ve spent years envisioning your child’s future—a future shaped by societal norms and expectations. Suddenly, your child comes out, and those dreams might seem shattered. It’s not that you don’t love and support your child; it’s just that the reality you envisioned may need to undergo a significant shift. This loss of the expected narrative can trigger a profound sense of grief for many parents.

As parents, it’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings and recognize that grieving a perceived loss of identity is a natural part of the process. The key is finding healthy outlets for these emotions, allowing parents to move forward with understanding and acceptance.

Shame: A Barrier to Support

Another emotion that can rear its head is shame. Parents may feel shame for not immediately comprehending their child’s experience, and this shame can become a barrier to offering the support they wish to provide. Understanding and dismantling this shame is essential for fostering an environment of love and acceptance.

Enter Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping. This powerful tool can help parents move out of the fight/flight/freeze response, allowing them to process their emotions and clear the way for open communication. By addressing underlying thoughts and emotions through EFT tapping, parents can release the grip of shame, paving the way for a more supportive and empathetic response.

Realizing the Lifelong Ramifications

The news of a child coming out can bring forth a flood of emotions, as parents grapple with the potential lifelong ramifications. It’s crucial to recognize that everyone’s journey is unique, and the impact on the parent-child relationship is fluid. Whether it’s fear, confusion, or a sense of loss, understanding these emotions is the first step toward building bridges of communication.

The Healing Power of EFT Tapping

This is where the wisdom of EFT tapping truly shines. By addressing the stored negative emotions surrounding the situation, parents create an opportunity to see and hear their child without the interference of unresolved emotions. It’s a process that not only brings healing to the current situation but also lays the foundation for future conversations.

At Wisdom of Tapping and Breath, we understand the importance of clearing personal emotions to create a space for understanding and acceptance. When you’ve looked within and released the stored negativity, you’re better equipped to engage in conversations that foster love, connection, and healing.

Your Journey Starts with You

It all starts with you. Your willingness to explore your emotions, understand your reactions, and embrace the transformative power of EFT tapping is the first step on this journey. Let’s navigate this path together at

A Clear Call to Action

Are you a parent navigating the complexities of emotions surrounding your child coming out? Let’s figure out the next step in this journey together. Head over to and let’s embark on a path of healing, understanding, and unconditional love.

Remember, your journey to acceptance and support begins with you. Let’s tap into the wisdom within and create a space where love knows no boundaries.

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